Your love life can't always be sunny all year round. The excitement you felt when you first met your partner and during your first several dates with each other will dwindle at some point, although that doesn't mean it won't spark ever again. Sometimes the butterflies in your stomach take rests from fluttering. That feeling will still be there, though, ready to be ignited when you reach milestones or special moments in your relationship.

However, there are some of us who mistake the decrease of excitement as the dying of love, especially when we have petty quarrels in the relationship more often than we thought we would. The more time we spend with someone, the more we learn of their imperfections. I'm sure that all of us who have a special someone have relationship blues. We can't avoid annoyances here and arguments there, even in a relationship that is generally okay; a calm plateau without the peaks of excitement and valleys of disappointment, if you will.

Sometimes, you come to a point when you become more aware of your partner's flaws. You notice that he or she doesn't cook as well as you want, that he or she doesn't tell you the things you want to hear, or that he or she doesn't always have time for you at the exact time you want. You learn that he or she doesn't say the right things at the right time.

Sometimes, those "flaws" become more apparent when there is someone else to whom you compare your partner. However, you need to face this fact. Whether you like it or not, there will always be someone more attractive than your partner. There will always be someone funnier, sexier, cooler, smarter, and just plain better than your significant other. Your partner can't be Brad Pitt, unless you're Angelina Jolie. Just because there's someone better doesn't mean you have to go chasing after the better ones, especially if your relationship is generally okay. You have to learn that there is such a thing as commitment.

Take a moment to look back on those "flaws" and reassess the situation. Your partner may not be there because he or she is in the middle of an important business meeting, or because it's one of those times when space is needed. He or she may not be a mind reader and cannot tell you words sweet as honey. He or she may not cook as well as you'd like, but would offer a dinner out as an alternative.

When you have problems in your relationship, think again--the problems might be because of your perceptions and reactions, and not because of your partner. Most of the time, the imperfections reflect our own. It might be because we think too much of what we ought to get, instead of what we ought to give. Maybe we forget that love is patient, kind, keeps no record of wrongs, and everything else the book of Corinthians says.

Of course, being in an abusive relationship is a different matter. For no reason should you stay in a relationship where you feel demeaned, and/or are physically hurt.

So think again. Do you feel you should get more out of the relationship? Or do you feel you should give more? Remember: a relationship is a two-way street, a give-and-take between two individuals. Make sure to openly communicate with your partner so that both of you are equal in giving and receiving. Try to be more patient, too. Perhaps with that, your relationship blues will turn into bright yellow hues.

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